The heal before the him or her (Part 3)

We have established already that companionship is from God, and the desire to have it is in line with His will. We have also discussed an unhealthy need for companionship and have been directed towards Jesus, who can truly help us. We shall see below a passage about Isaac and Rebekah.

⁶² Now Isaac had come from Beer Lahai Roi, for he was living in the Negev. ⁶³ He went out to the field one evening to meditate,^[f] and as he looked up, he saw camels approaching. ⁶⁴ Rebekah also looked up and saw Isaac. She got down from her camel ⁶⁵ and asked the servant, “Who is that man in the field coming to meet us?”

“He is my master,” the servant answered. So she took her veil and covered herself.

⁶⁶ Then the servant told Isaac all he had done. ⁶⁷ Isaac brought her into the tent of his mother Sarah, and he married Rebekah. So she became his wife, and he loved her; and Isaac was comforted after his mother’s death.

(Genesis 24:62 – 67)

You see, Isaac's mother had died, and he had a loneliness on the inside. He was grieved. We know this because if he wasn't emotionally injured, then the comfort Rebecca brought would not have been mentioned. In the passage, we see that before Isaac saw Rebecca, he had been meditating. What's more, there's a play on words going on here. Verse 62 mentions two locations involving Isaac: Beer Lahai Roi and Negev. The Hebrew word “Negev” means “desert”. Also, the Hebrew term “Beer Lahai Roi” means “Well of the Living One who sees me”. Hidden within the scripture is the situation Isaac was in and how he coped: He was at a dry place emotionally due to his mother's death and sought comfort in the water of God's companionship. As Jesus said, "I give you rivers of living water" (John 7:37-39). Despite his loss, Isaac found Rebekah to be an effective source of comfort. You see, Rebecca as a wife, was in no way Isaac’s mother. She couldn't be the one who weaned him. She couldn't turn into Sarah and give Isaac the specific love of his mother. She couldn't have the same old hands Isaac had held all his life, yet it says she was able to comfort him. Why? Because Isaac had not sought to have her heal scars she couldn't heal, but rather had availed himself to fellowship and meditation with God, he was able to appreciate the gift God brought through Rebecca. He was not caught up in comparison and enveloped in dissatisfaction. He did not perceive his wife as insufficient while seeking to have her heal wounds she had no power to cure. He knew that Rebekah was Rebekah, and Sarah was Sarah. Therefore, he was able to appreciate the gift of Rebekah’s companionship.

So, it stands, that for they that place their self-esteem on the acceptance of men, they that require others to feel complete, and they that desire whatever form of companionship to do what only God can, that even if they are given a great gift in a spouse or friend, that they might be unable to appreciate this gift from God. For they seek to have men do what only God can.

But better things shall be said of God’s children. We will not seek to burden men with what they cannot carry. But shall let God do only what God can. This way, we would be much more able to appreciate the gifts in men that He gives.

Prayer:

My father, help me. Help me to let you fill the void and heal the scars and wounds that only you can save me from. Help me to appreciate those you want me to appreciate and to not burden them with what only you can carry. Thank you that you love me eternally and care for my emotional and mental healing.

In Jesus' name I have asked what I have.

Amen!